Once again, Uncle Jack’s refreshing and profound insight speaks volumes. In a letter to a Mrs. Johnson, he said:
Of course taking in the poor illegitimate child is ‘charity’. Charity means love. It is called Agape in the New Testament to distinguish it from Eros (sexual love), Storgë (family affection) and Philia (friendship) [E.g., I John 4:9]. So there are 4 kinds of ‘love’, all good in their proper place, but Agape is the best because it is the kind God has for us and is good in all circumstances. (There are people I mustn’t feel Eros towards, and people I can’t feel Storge or Philia for; but I can practise Agape to God, Angels, Man and Beast, to the good and the bad, the old and the young, the far and the near.
Later on, he points his readers to St. Paul’s letter to the Corinthian church, excerpted below, as God’s definition of His kind of love.
1 Corinthians 13:1-8 ESV If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. (2) And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. (3) If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing. (4) Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant (5) or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; (6) it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. (7) Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. (8) Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.
In another letter Lewis simplifies love to just two kinds:
There are two kinds of love: we love wise and kind and beautiful people because we need them, but we love (or try to love) stupid and disagreeable people because they need us. This second kind is the more divine because that is how God loves us: not because we are lovable but because He is love, not because He needs to receive but He delights to give.
If we have the mind of Christ, we won’t have to grit our teeth and screw up our mouths into a smile to show loving grace to the unlovable. We will love them most, because they need it most.
Please note that godly love isn’t necessarily showing affection for the one being loved. It’s sincerely and actively desiring God’s best for them, even if they don’t deserve it, because we don’t deserve it any more than they do.
As much as we talk about Agape love and hear it preached, we typically view it as the impossible dream, something that would be nice if only we could pull it off. Well, guess what. God commands us to love with the very same love that Jesus showed for us when he took our sins to the cross. His New Testament is full of examples of it and commands for it. St. John knew Jesus’ love better than the rest of His apostles, so read his letters to the church, with special emphasis on 1 John 4:7-21, to get the full effect. You will see that loving as God loves is not an option, if you hope to gain eternal life.